Pro-Life

This morning I was checking my email and I ran across this article. I shared it on my Face Book page and then followed it up with a personal comment, only to have that comment constantly removed. So, I thought that I would share it here. To fully understand what I am referring to please read the short article that I have attached a link to above.

This was my comment in reference to the news article...


This is what we face and what we are fighting against.


Genetic testing.


What's wrong with this, you ask? This test, (the one that you will read about, if you click on the link above) is made to screen for Down syndrome and has, in general, been created to help eliminate the chances of children being born with it. 


Let me rephrase. The MaterniT21  test was created to give parents earlier results and a safer method (just in case the fetus doesn't have Down syndrome), to test for this syndrome and other abnormalities. That way abortion can be done sooner into the pregnancy. How thoughtful for the baby. This test is not creating awareness. It doesn't come with education or pictures of beautiful children who have been diagnosed with one thing or another. No, millions of dollars have been spent and even lost on this test so that we too can join in and eliminate more babies who are born like my Vada. 


That is what's wrong with this test.


Did you know that in some countries they have pre-set goals to be "Down syndrome free" by a certain time frame. How could anyone be okay with that? How could you look at this test and think "Oh, this is great." Let me tell you now, don't be fooled, this test is not great, this test is murder with a ignorant prejudices attached to it. 

I hate these kinds of articles. Hate them. I can. not. stand. the false messages that are in them and I am constantly dumbfounded in how others can look at tests like this one, as a positive form of progress.

Abortion was the first option that we were given after our amniocentesis. (The only reason we chose to do the test was due to all of the medical issues with Vada's heart and stomach. Prior to finding out about her complications we had declined this test not once, not twice but several times.)  That option came from practically every doctor and nurse that we encountered. As if we hadn't known. It was on rare occasions that we might have been told (from any medical professional) that Vada had value, or of the things that she would accomplish, the love she would bring or even the laughter that she would share. It was however common to feel unsupported in our choice to continue with our pregnancy, other than from the great love that we were showered with by our immediate and even church family). 


I am blessed that God had already worked in mine and my husbands hearts prior to receiving the positive Down syndrome test result for Vada.


 I am grateful that abortion was NEVER an option or even a thought that I was willing to "ponder on". 


We were gifted with great support from our family and friends and there are too many people who are left feeling afraid and alone in situations like these. Therefore, they rely on the ignorance's of their doctors-who are suppose to be "experts in their fields". The truth of what a Down syndrome diagnosis is and could be are very rarely given in a positive light. 

For our situation, I will say this.., the specialist that we had in Peoria did give abortion as our first option but the moment that I told her "No, I am keeping may baby." She never brought it up again. From that moment forward she only listened to our plans and she supported them. That too, is rare.

My daughters are ALL amazing and my life is better because of their differences, unique strengths and their lives in general. I am blessed that I didn't need to be told of Vada's potentials, I already knew and that is all I want to do for others-to tell the truth about Down syndrome, there is more then one side.


I am proud to be Pro-Life. I will never stand out side of a building and throw red paint on you or condemn you with my words for the choices that you make-because I am not your judge and jury but I will never be okay with murder and to me, that's exactly what abortion is. You will never hear the words "Abortion is okay" coming from my voice and I will continue to share our truths. 


IDSC posted this on their Face Book page,  so I can not claim this perfect statement to be mine, but it is just that, perfect! " If it offends you that I am Pro-life then I need to come clean and tell you this. I find it offensive that people advocate to take the life of a child during pregnancy, just because that child is like my child." I couldn't even write that without tearing up. 


I ask only one thing from those of you who have taken the time to fully read through this (no matter where you stand on this issue). Take a good look at my daughters face. Would you willingly tell her that she has no value? No worth? Would you tell her that she doesn't deserve the kind of treatment that those who do not have Down syndrome deserve? Should we cast her aside because society tell us that she is not perfect? The answer to all of the above should be "No", was for you?

Life Is NOT Disposable

Asking me if I would knowingly have another child who has Down syndrome is like a double edged sword. I have a daughter who has down syndrome and I wouldn't change her having Ds because that is a part of her and I love her. I would never and could ever have an abortion. I know myself and I know I would never forgive myself. Plus, that is a choice that I believe is truly, not mine. Maybe if the question was asked differently, then I could answer it more appropriately.

I am hoping that my writing abilities are at the very least semi comprehensible, that way I am able to write this in an understanding way...

Justin and I have a possibility that together we may always create a child who has Ds. We are not certain if it is a fact yet and are in the process of having genetic testing done to find the answers we need. Due to a recent flaw in my method of birth control we have been forced to make a decision and unfortunately, we cant make a educated choice with out knowing if Justin is a carrying parent for the Trisomy21 gene.

I tried to explain to my OBGYN when I was in her office on Friday about Translocation Trisomy21 (which is the type that little V has). Dr. P. didn't get it at first. Her suggestion was this...,

Dr. P. "You know what you could do..?" She said as she was looking at Vada who was sitting ever so sweetly in her car seat. Her big almond eyes staring towards the Doctors like she could understand what she was saying. "You could get an amnio and if the fetus had Trisomy21 then you could just abort until you have one that doesn't have it." I instantly felt my face warm and I wanted to get up and leave. Is it wrong for me to want a good doctor? One that believes in God. She wouldn't have recite scripture to me, in fact that might creep me out. All I want is one that believes life is at conception and is created by God and has a purpose. Am I naive? I liked this Doctor. I haven't had much time with her, but up until this point she did her job for me just fine. Now, though, I don't know if I can go back, but I don't really want to go looking for yet another new doctor.

I took a deep breath (something I am getting really good at doing), and then I explained that the 1 in 4 chance was Justin's chance on being a carrying parent and not an actual ratio for babies that we could "produce" who have Ds. Then, I did it. I added in what I truly felt and while I did it nicely and held my composure, I didn't sugar coat it. I couldn't, Vada was right there and she may not have understood what it was that I was saying, but I was saying it for her. I told the doctor that I knew Vada had Ds before she was born and that the knowledge didn't matter. I love her no matter what. I told the her that for me and for my personal believes, (to me), abortion was murder and something I couldn't live with. After calmly stating my case she shook her head and said "Okay, then you wouldn't really want to do that then." She accepted what I said and respected it to some degree, there really wasn't much of a response other than that.

I'm wondering what I should do. I'm feeling a trend with doctors lately and I am wondering if something is wrong with me. I complain or have complained about doctors a lot since the beginning of my pregnancy. Are my standards too high? Is there no such thing as a doctor with real morals and christian values anymore? Am I wrong for wanting those things? Should I find a new doctor? Or do I just agree to disagree? After all, isn't it wrong to not accept her for her differences? She did hear me, acknowledge me and then drop the subject once I told her my believes. Is that good enough? Its something that I am praying about.

Why is life so disposable to people? I don't understand how anyone could throw that option around so easily and actually live with themselves. I'm sorry, I just cant. No, I wont.

What about those poor women and even girls who are offered this option but are never told the other side? Who is going to help them when they are hurting because of their choice? Or worse, what about the ones who get pregnant over and over and use abortion as a means of birth control. It makes me sick. That visit made me sick and has left a fowl taste in my mouth and a longing to never let Vada go. The realization is setting in that there are people in this world who would not have made the same choice that I made in keeping Vada and those who look at Vada now, in her beautiful baby flesh and don't see her as a real person who has a place in this world and who carries an over abundance of value. Its sad.

So, back to the original question..., Would I knowingly have another child who has Ds? Yes and no. If Justin is a carrying parent then we have decided that he will probably have a hysterectomy since it is a less invasive procedure for him. That decision is not final but it will be something that we will look further into if needed. It's hard to give a definite answer. I love children and I would someday like to have a son or another daughter, but i am not in a place to really begin planning for another addition in our family. With that being said, I would undoubtedly adopt a child who has Ds or even another disability and I would love him or her as my own if we did decide to not have any more biological children.